i've always disliked guys who criticise a girl's looks, figures.. who look down on girls who are so-called fat, ugly.. always hated that kind of guys.

imagine.. one day, if my bf were to criticise my looks, figure.. or say that would prefer if i am slimmer, if i put on more makeup, if i put on nice dresses and not dress so sloppy, if i wear heels instead of wearing slippers all the time...

ok, maybe dressing wise, i still can accept it.. if my partner wants me to dress nicely for certain occassions.. fine, that is still acceptable.. but if he were to mind my dressing everytime we go out.. ? hmm....

i think.. i wonder.. i cannot imagine.. i think i may ditch him... unless i really like him so much that i disregard my normal self and change for him...

but then again.. are looks really impt?
i mean.. i dun deny appearance counts.. alot in this practical world.
pretty girls, handsome guys get the best of everything.. but is it really practical? is it really important? does it really counts alot until character and everything else are not taken into account?

is it really fair for your partner to mind your looks, ur figure, ur dressing.. imagine, woman's figure go heywire after giving birth.. then how? even if ur husband give you money to go slimming centre.. fine, if it works out good.. but how if it doesnt work out? then what happens.. she still remains the fat figure and the husband despise her figure and probably says that she doesnt appeal sexually to him...

or what happens if one partner is sick.. and he/she looks sickly.. is the other partner going to despise and not take care of him/she as a duty? well, when i say sick, its not the common flu or what.. maybe some chronic or even terminal illness? then what happens....

some say that.. when your partner criticise you in the hope that you will get better (in terms of looks and figure), they are giving you a chance to change for the better.. if you do not change, it will only give them a reason to stray...

when i heard this, i was like.. pissed off!
i mean, what the hell..
my partner strays and i am the one who is to be blamed for it?? doesnt really make sense right.. is just like u are the one making the mistake and you put the blame on someone or something else..

i thought.. one should be responsible for their own actions? no matter what you do, its your OWN decision and actions and you should be responsible and nobody else can be blamed?

but then again.. life is unfair.
these days, its really hard to find someone who is really true, especially lovers..
its all about good PR skills, good flirting skills, appearance..
for woman, it will be good looks with tons of makeup, for man, well, he would have to be nicely and neatly dressed with probably branded stuff on him..
basically 表面工夫 is very impt..

and so.. everyone looks nice on the outside... nobody really cares what is really inside, whether or not the person is good or not good.

everything is advancing.. but human beings seem to be degrading if they only count on appearance...