Kemp. My nephew staying with me and my parents for a long 12 years. Before last year, I Never once had the thought of sending him back home.
Kemp's mum. My sister. Staying with the mil since she got married. Very often, they fought and quarrelled, over the basic simple stuff (not cleaning the house properly, talking back to her, not taking good care of Keane, even fighting with her). Maybe The mil was picking on her, maybe my sister was really lazy and because my sister was defensive and so quarrels/fights often happened. Early in her marriage, Dad was always involved in their quarrels/fights because Dad was asked to talk to my sister. I hated my sister for that because she was always causing trouble to Dad. After a few times, we got sick and tired of the nonsense and Dad refused to meet or talk to the mil again.
Last year, I made a decision to live alone. In order to do that, I would need to get a resale flat for my parents and have Kemp move back to his house. This decision wasn't easy. Firstly was the breaking of news to my parents, then to my sister and her husband, then finally to Kemp. Then it was the execution of the plan. My sister had to clear a room for Kemp. Dad went over to take a look at the room and took measurements so that we could buy the necessary like study table, cupboard and bed.
I even had to fork out money to replace the aircon in their house. Just because Kemp is moving back, just because Dad wants the best for him.
These days of clearing stuff in Kemp's room cause the mil to quarrel with my sister again. And she wanted us to talk to the mil again. Which was something I know Dad was reluctant to do it, he was reluctant to talk to the mil.
As much as I hated, I thought we had to go over to the mil place, to see what exactly the mil was unhappy about. Was she unhappy about Kemp shifting back? Or unhappy that they are taking up 1 more room of her house? Or unhappy that my sister is doing a bad job of clearing the stuff?
Last Sat. We went over to the house. As usual she nagged, complained to us, about the usual stuff about my sister.
Actually I dont really care about the relationship between the mil and my sister. But after last Sat, I start to think if my decision is right. Am I right in sending Kemp back home? Will he be in good hands? Will his mother, my sister take good care of him? Will his clothes get washed properly? Will he get breakfast everyday? Will he get well taken of if he falls sick? Will he get involved in the quarrels/fights between his mum and his grandmother? Will he be happy in the house? The lucky thing is the mil dont stay in the house from Mon to Fri. Only comes back on the weekends. And so, Kemp wont have a chance to meet her if he comes back to stay with us over the weekends, which was my plan initially too.
Deep down I know this plan is halfway through and I have to send him back home. But deep deep down, I feel guilty, guilty towards Kemp and guilty towards Dad because I am putting him through the mil nonsense again.
Kemp's mum. My sister. Staying with the mil since she got married. Very often, they fought and quarrelled, over the basic simple stuff (not cleaning the house properly, talking back to her, not taking good care of Keane, even fighting with her). Maybe The mil was picking on her, maybe my sister was really lazy and because my sister was defensive and so quarrels/fights often happened. Early in her marriage, Dad was always involved in their quarrels/fights because Dad was asked to talk to my sister. I hated my sister for that because she was always causing trouble to Dad. After a few times, we got sick and tired of the nonsense and Dad refused to meet or talk to the mil again.
Last year, I made a decision to live alone. In order to do that, I would need to get a resale flat for my parents and have Kemp move back to his house. This decision wasn't easy. Firstly was the breaking of news to my parents, then to my sister and her husband, then finally to Kemp. Then it was the execution of the plan. My sister had to clear a room for Kemp. Dad went over to take a look at the room and took measurements so that we could buy the necessary like study table, cupboard and bed.
I even had to fork out money to replace the aircon in their house. Just because Kemp is moving back, just because Dad wants the best for him.
These days of clearing stuff in Kemp's room cause the mil to quarrel with my sister again. And she wanted us to talk to the mil again. Which was something I know Dad was reluctant to do it, he was reluctant to talk to the mil.
As much as I hated, I thought we had to go over to the mil place, to see what exactly the mil was unhappy about. Was she unhappy about Kemp shifting back? Or unhappy that they are taking up 1 more room of her house? Or unhappy that my sister is doing a bad job of clearing the stuff?
Last Sat. We went over to the house. As usual she nagged, complained to us, about the usual stuff about my sister.
Actually I dont really care about the relationship between the mil and my sister. But after last Sat, I start to think if my decision is right. Am I right in sending Kemp back home? Will he be in good hands? Will his mother, my sister take good care of him? Will his clothes get washed properly? Will he get breakfast everyday? Will he get well taken of if he falls sick? Will he get involved in the quarrels/fights between his mum and his grandmother? Will he be happy in the house? The lucky thing is the mil dont stay in the house from Mon to Fri. Only comes back on the weekends. And so, Kemp wont have a chance to meet her if he comes back to stay with us over the weekends, which was my plan initially too.
Deep down I know this plan is halfway through and I have to send him back home. But deep deep down, I feel guilty, guilty towards Kemp and guilty towards Dad because I am putting him through the mil nonsense again.
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